My Self-Discovery Period (Triggered by The Biggest Let Down Of My Creative Career)
Hi! Holy snap, this is my first guest blog post EVER and I’m totally stoked about it! Thank you so much to Kaitlyn of KayBeth.com for giving me this opportunity :).
Okey smokey… let’s get started!
My Self-Discovery Period (Triggered by The BIGGEST Let Down Of My Creative Career)
Ok… so recently, I’ve been going through a MASSIVE period of self-discovery.
I’m a writer. And a singer. Specifically, a singer-songwriter. And somewhere around 2015, I started working with a manager and production team on my first EP (go take a listen… it’s pretty bomb, if I do say so myself).
That was supposed to be my ‘big break’… except it wasn’t. I poured out my soul, and then everything just stopped.
Before anyone starts getting resentful on my behalf, it’s nobody’s fault. Music is a business, and sometimes business relationships just don’t work out.
But it doesn’t make the letdown suck any less.
So there I was, sitting on what I felt was my best work- which, let’s be real, it was my first ever CD… I have a lifetime to outdo myself- with seemingly nothing to show for it. I felt like a loser, like I’d never find joy in doing any of it again because what would be the point?
Fast Forward to Now…
I’m nowhere near fully healed from that experience. That kind of thing stays with you for a while, I think.
But with the help of my blog (where I publish journal entries in my Sh*t I Did Last Week series) and some serious self love, I’ve started singing and writing again.
How Do You Rekindle Your Passion?
It’s definitely not an easy task, and you’ll probably have to work at it for the rest of your life, but rekindling your passion is totally worth the effort.
Whether the quest is for something specific OR you’re simply trying to re-ignite your zest for life, here are some tips for…
Finding Your Passion Again (Even If You’ve Totally Lost It)
Approach EVERYTHING With An Open Mind
You have no clue what you like and what you don’t until you try it…
… so just f***ing try it.
What do you have to lose? I mean, besides your life, but a little skydiving never hurt nobody.
Aight, aight, I’m kidding.
Seriously, though. Aside from the obvious bodily limitations, the only limits you have are inside your mind. It’s totally up to you how much you allow them to control you.
Feel the resistance and do it anyway. And trust me, I am not the daring type… I totally understand what it’s like to be scared sh**less about something.
But being scared doesn’t make you unable… it makes you human. So take it from someone with anxiety: feel the fear and do it anyway.
Understand that you owe nothing to anyone (except yourself).
The only thing you owe the world? Don’t be an a-hole. That’s about it.
If you haven’t fulfilled that obligation yet… stop reading, because you’ve got some work to do before you can even think about starting on this.
Once you’ve carefully evaluated and you are, in fact, not a sphincter, you gotta get selfish.
Sounds contradictory, right? Bare with me.
There’s a misconception out there that ‘self-care’ and ‘selfishness’ aren’t the same. But that’s not true. Self-care is inherently selfish, but that isn’t an inherently bad thing. Ya feel?
Like, is it bad to be selfish all the time? Yes, of course it is.
But is it a bad thing to protect your happiness or peace of mind at the risk of angering a few haters? No.
Now that we’ve got that covered…
… get selfish.
What you choose to do with the rest of your life has everything to do with you and nothing to do with the opinions of others. People will always have opinions about what you should do. Very few of them can fathom how it’s going to make you feel.
The only person who can understand that is you. And if you ain’t getting a good feeling from it, it probably ain’t for you.
Make a list of EVERYTHING You Like To Do
This was something I did when deciding my blog niche. My interests changed overtime- which, by the way, is completely OK– but it really helped me narrow it down.
So start with the basics.
For example, I asked myself, “Ada, what comes almost as natural to you as breathing… ?”. First thought was “creating”, second thought was “writing”. So I knew that whatever I did, it had to involve creating and writing.
Then I got a little more specific: what topics interest me most? Why? And how can I integrate them with my talents?
Ask yourself these questions and you could be onto something great!
Is it something you’d love even if you HAD to do it?
Ok, now comes the tougher part… evaluating whether it’s a hobby or a career.
Now, there’s nothing wrong with either. If you’re fortunate, it’s both.
But not everything was meant to make you money, and it’s totally fine to keep your passion sacred.
You can find a day job that you like, and the thing you love will never be tainted by the world of business.
Having said that, maybe you’re totally turned on by cold-hard-cash-earning ventures, or the grind, as they call it. That’s fine, too.
Just make sure you know what makes the most sense for you.
If the process doesn’t excite you, let it go.
Last but not least, if you’re not excited by the process of doing something, it may not be for you.
Sure, you should have goals, but they shouldn’t be the only reason why you’re doing something.
Whatever it is, you should be excited even if you only ever achieve minimal success. (But again, success is subjective).
Your whole life can’t be about ‘what you’re going to do when’ or ‘I’m going to be *blank* in *blankety-blank* years’…
That when is right now and you are what you’re meant to be right now.
In a few years, you’ll be what you’re meant to be then and there. But don’t let that take you away from the joys of now.
It Ain’t Over Till It’s Over
I been watchin’ a lot of Gary Vee lately, and I love what he has to say about ageism and ‘when you’re supposed to achieve success’.
First of all, you define your own success. If you’re doing what you love and making a living wage doing it, GO… APE… S**T. That is THE LIFE and you shouldn’t give that up for anyone or anything!
Second, this idea of achieving success before your 30’s is kinda bogus.
Your life isn’t over until it’s over. Please don’t let your age stop you from doing something you’re totally capable of.
Start that business, go back to school, learn that new skill… do what makes you happy.
Everyone has something to offer the world… it’s time for you to find your Something.
Good luck <3.
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