Recognizing and characterizing a relationship as toxic is not always easy. They come in all shapes and sizes and are often very well disguised, at least in the beginning. However, any self-respected woman knows that once a toxic relationship rears its ugly head, be it in BBW dating, at home or at work, there is nowhere to go but out. Below, we discuss a few ways how to avoid such relationships altogether instead of doing damage control when they happen. We leave that for another time.
Being fully aware of your self-worth can save you a lot of headaches down the road. You’d be very careful when it comes to playing outside of your league but would also know exactly what your strong suits are and what you excel in.
In practical terms, this means being very efficient with your time and effort instead of trying to fit into a pair of shoes that are too small, and swimming with sharks when there is absolutely no reason to. When it comes to romantic relationships, finding someone you’re compatible with is key, but in order to do this, you have to be fully aware of you what you bring to the table, and what you want in return.
If you lower your standards too much to try and fit into someone’s life, sooner or later you’ll realize you’re not getting what you really want, and if you try to enter a world you don’t belong in, you’ll feel self-conscious and not deserving of true happiness. Finally, finding someone who’s got the same values, beliefs, likes, dislikes, and expectations out of life can lead to a lifetime of happiness.
Even when everything seems to be going according to plan, never forget to do the little things that positively affect your self-confidence and discard the ones that have an adverse effect. Speaking of an adverse effect, bring all interaction with toxic people in your life to a minimum. Nobody has enough positive energy to put up with mean, negative or uninspiring people.
An honorable mention in the behaviors to be eliminated category goes to checking out the social media profiles of the people you don’t really know but envy for some reason, be it because of their physical appearance, social status, professional success or whatever it is that you find desirable but feel are lacking at the moment or in general. Don’t do that to yourself. Live your own life, not someone else’s, and surround yourself with willing participants or the people who like you for who you are.
Sure, Tom Hardy may be God in human form but there is a difference between thinking he’s hot and aspiring to break up his marriage and run away with him. Much like there is a difference between starting up your own company and aspiring to take over Apple in a year or two without ever having worked in the IT industry.
Regardless of whether you’re looking to improve or get out of a toxic work or romantic relationship, the same principles apply. As long as you respect yourself and others, you should expect healthy relationships across the board.
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